When I was in grade school we went to a wonderful Lutheran ELCA church that I absolutely loved. One of the first things I remember learning at church was God first, then family, then self. Unfortunately as a child with my innate desire to help people, I took that literally thinking it meant everybody’s needs should come before my own. For the next 40+ years, I spent my life doing what I thought God and my family wanted and not thinking much about what I needed. I became the ultimate people pleaser losing myself in the process.

After the deaths of my sisters and mother-in-law, I started journaling. It was one of the ways I could manage the grief. Through that journaling I realized I had lost sight of myself. I had been making decisions based on shoulds, wants, needs and unrealistic expectations because that was “easier”. But thankfully additional journaling helped me understand that I didn’t need to reinvent myself. I needed practical tools to help me figure out what matters.

If you would like to reconnect with yourself, my community is here to help you understand what shaped you and decide what still belongs. If you join, you’ll have access to the same practical tools and templates I used in my own journey. If interested in learning more, please click here for details.